To be on the happier side of life!

 

Today I was having a small discussion with my friend, who was quite frustrated and unhappy with his life. Real issue was oblivious and solutions quite distant. To gain some motivation in his life, he was browsing few sites and suddenly came flashing to me with a nice quote – “What has happened in the past has happened, what’s there in the future is unknown. But you see, there won’t be a single reason for you to be unhappy in the present moment!” This was so true, though there can be exceptions at times, that it is either our past bad experience or the uncertainty of the future which bother us all the times. This is one of the major factors which keep our minds engaged and never let us cherish the GOLDEN present, the time which clocks no tensions and no worries of its own.

To all this discussion I added that WE MUST ALSO STOP ASSUMPTIONS TO STAY HAPPY! He gave me a confused look that what was I saying. I explained to him that Yes, we assume a lot and hence screw up things as well as our minds. We may not be aware of this default action of our brain but as soon as something happens, we start assuming. This person must have done this; he/she must be a cheat; if the train gets late all this and that will happen, etc. If somebody is quite you again start assuming. You can yourself count innumerable moments when you had simply wasted lots of energy on assuming things which landed you no results. This power of assumptions is a reason why you start feeling depressed or anxious about anything most of the times. Why to assume about the increase in your salary after promotion when you don’t know.

Why should you keep your mind busy with all such thoughts when they are unnecessary. It is our assumptions that lead us to  prejudices which are extremely harmful. Act after you gather facts. It is important. I believe that just give it a try to unload your mind with such futile thoughts, instead channelize your energy towards gathering facts for such situations. I have been trying not to assume about anybody, anything. I’m not even thinking if anybody will ever read my article, or how many likes I will receive, or will this post another waste of time for my reader. I’m happy to write because I don’t assume and live in present.

 

>>#AJ#<<

NOT AS HAPPY AS U!

An awesome poem you must read…(source-unknown)

“NOT AS HAPPY AS U“

Sometimes in life we feel so blue,

But someone, somewhere is not as happy as u.

 

Somewhere far at the border when a soldier sleeps,

Missing his loved ones he silently weeps.

 

Somewhere a mother painfully sighs,

Coz her new born baby didnt open her eyes.

 

Somewhere a poor dad silently cries,

When he sees his son begging for a bowl of rice.

 

Somewhere in an orphanage a little girl’s sad,

When she misses her mom n dad.

 

So at times a reason to smile u may not have any,

Say to urself that u’re happier than many.

 

Coz life is beautiful and. 

its not always blue,

 

And someone, somewhere is not as happy as u..!!

Where do you position yourself?

Source: Untraceable

Measure of Life!

Life isn’t qualified by the branded clothes you wear
Or fluency of English you speak

It’s measured by the number of faces
who smile when they hear your name.

–Source Unknown–

Oh No! Happy New Year :)

Today my Wi-Fi Suddenly Stopped Working..:O
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Then I Realized that my Neighbors haven’t paid the bill..
How irresponsible they are..!! :/

Hope they take this as a new year resolution to pay in time

Again a lethargic effort! All copied from FunInventors except last line

But the wishes are real—Wish you all a very Happy Dappy New Year 2013, though every year is a new year. LOL

Kwanzaa – 7 Principles Worth Learning!

I recently came across something unheard-of – “KWANZAA” – a week-long celebration of African community across the globe from 26Dec-1Jan every year. (Read here more about it)

There are 7 principles which are expected to be followed and celebrated across the world with full joy and gusto; I tried to tailor them fit for an individual rather than as a community believing that once we practice them,our world, our perception towards ourselves and towards others will certainly change and thereby our community per se.

The principles are:

Umoja (oo-MOE-jah) - Unity - Joining together as a family, community and race

To be a better person, a responsible societal person, we need to cease the thoughts about ourselves as an individual and envision of the mutual. If we give a small thought to what all we do and what all can be the ramifications to the greater large,we could collectively build a wholesome society in a tacit manner.

Kujichagulia (koo-jee-cha-goo-LEE-ah) - Self-determination - Responsibility for one’s own future

Let us be determined, tangible and perpetually ready for all the actions and decisions that have to be taken. Stop admonishing others; we must motivate ourselves and be ready for the steps taken by us for ourselves and for the society.

Ujima (oo-JEE-mah) - Collective Work and Responsibility - Building the community together and solving any problems as a group

First be True to yourselves and be a team-spirited person. Learn to take the praises as well as stones. Our success should be the reward for all the failures that made us persevere.

Ujamaa (oo-JAH-mah) - Cooperative Economics - The community building and profiting from its own businesses

CSR (Corporate Social Responsibility) is in vogue. Why not in our own lives. Need not to do something at the national level, start small, right from your own society. Do what all is best for the good health and prosperity of the area we live in. Returns will be large and compelling.

Nia (nee-AH) - Purpose - The goal of working together to build community and further the African culture

A striving  man without purpose is like a dog chasing a running car. We have to be focused, know what has to be achieved and in what time. Let destiny be chosen by you rather than reluctantly accepting the one imposed on you.

Kuumba (koo-OOM-bah) - Creativity - Using new ideas to create a more beautiful and successful community

Present times are fast-paced,running faster won’t help. Be offbeat, be creative. Our minds have to be channelized to think in a smarter way. Got a solution? Don’t raise the checkered-flag;wait & re-analyse if it could be done in a better way. Take analogous examples and try to fit them in entirely disparate context. It does help a lot to find a way out in even most complex situation.

Imani (ee-MAH-nee) - Faith - Honoring African ancestors, traditions and leaders and celebrating past triumphs over adversity

Faith in ourselves, our capabilities, our rich tradition is quintessential. Give a try and have a positive approach for the results. Be that baby who is thrown up in the air and instead of apprehending who will catch him, enjoy the ephemeral flight and live the moment.

It is utmost essential to understand that we are one composing element of this so-called society or community. The quality of the composing elements determine the overall worth of the encompassing contour. To bring happiness, cordial and more evolving, forward-going behaviour in the society,first we have to change ourselves. As Mahatma Gandhi quoted:

Be the change you want to see in the world

>>#AJ#<<

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Behold the loved ones forever!

Life is often full of surprises, anger, irritations and broken relations. We are sometimes so much over-powered by ourselves that we tend not to listen to what others have to say; who was wrong when there was a fight or disagreement between two of us. Because of various wrong and untimely decisions, we regret later and don’t even get a chance to repent. Sharing with you all a short lovely story to learn something very important – Let not thy loved ones fly away. Hold on to it before it is too late.!!!

Indeed one of the best eye opener message:
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It was their anniversary, and Aisha was waiting for her husband Rajiv to show up.
Things had changed since their marriage, the once cute couple couldn’t-live-without-each-other had turned bitter.

Fighting over every little things, both didn’t like the way things had changed.
Aisha was waiting to see if Rajiv remembered it was their anniversary!
Just as the door bell rang she ran to find her husband wet and smiling with a bunch of flowers in his hand.The two started re-living the old days. Making up for fights, then was d plan for champagne, light music And it was raining outside! It was perfect.
But the moment paused when the phone in the bedroom rang.
Aisha went to pick it up and it was a man. “Hello ma’am I’m calling from the police station. Is this Mr Rajiv Mehra’s number?”
“Yes it is!”
“I’m sorry ma’am; but there was an accident and a man died. We got this number from his wallet; we need you to come and identify his body.”
Aisha’s heart sank.!!! She was shocked!
But my husband is here with me?”
“Sorry ma’am, but the incident took place at 2 pm, when he was boarding the train.”
Aisha was about to lose her conscience.
How could this happen?!
She had heard about the soul of the person coming to meet a loved one before it leaves!
She ran into the other room.
He was not there. It was true! He had left her for good!! Oh God she would have died for another chance to mend every little fight! She rolled on the floor in pain. She lost her chance! Forever!
Suddenly there was a noise from the bathroom, the door opened and Rajiv came out and said….. “Darling, I forgot to tell you my wallet got stolen today”.LIFE MIGHT NOT GIVE YOU A SECOND CHANCE. SO NEVER WASTE A MOMENT WHEN YOU CAN STILL MAKE UP FOR YOUR WRONGS!!! 

Its the last quarter of the year so let’s start making amends.
To parents
To siblings
To friends
And many more.
No one is promised tomorrow. Have a wonderful Life with no regrets!
This has to be one of the best message!!